The month of November is a time of giving, a time of thankfulness, so this phrase can play a big part in this month for all of us.
I believe Lily Hammond said it best in her 1916 book In the Garden of delight, “You don’t pay love back; you pay it forward.” In simple terms, when your heart is warmed by a random act of kindness, help someone else feel that warmth!
The “deeds” themselves do not need to be extravagant, they only need to be what someone needs to feel happy, surprised, special, grateful and pay it forward to others. This happiness and gratitude that you create can inspire so much more.
Humankind is inherently social. We gain psychological and emotional strength from connecting with others. Most of us do this with family and friends, however if we stretch across the void and touch a stranger’s life, the feeling of having made a difference fills our hearts just as much as it fills theirs.
This is one of the most powerful benefits of paying it forward. You are creating moments in life that are leaving the world a better place while considerably are leaving your life a better place. This positive effect felt by one person can become the positive effect that will culminate wonders in your neighborhood, your community, your school.
Being a part of and contributing to a community is a need we often neglect but it can make a significant difference in your society. This month take some time and think about how you can transform someone’s day.
Here is a brief list of some ideas to pay it forward:
~Pay it Backward: buy coffee for the person behind you in line.
~Send a positive text message to five different people randomly
~Post inspirational sticky notes around your office, home, school, etc.
~Let someone go in front of you in line who only has a few items.
~Leave a note on someone’s car telling them how to have a great day
~Set an alarm on your phone to go off at three different times during the day. In those moments, do something kind for someone else.
~Practice self-kindness and spend 30 minutes doing something you love today.
~~While you’re out, compliment a parent on how well-behaved their child is.
~Purchase extra dog or cat food and bring it to an animal shelter.
~Keep an extra umbrella at work, so you can lend it out when it rains.
~Email or write to a former teacher who made a difference in your life.
“We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give.”
– Winston S. Churchill
Love, Live and Be Well my friends!
Owner Bella Nani,
Co-Creator Hildegardian Wellness Program,
Reiki Practitioner and Personal Trainer